Relationship Counselling & Couples Therapy

London & Worldwide

Want Better Communication and Connection? Relationship Counselling Can Help!

Relationship counselling is for everyone.

Relationship counselling is a talking therapy, also known as marriage or guidance counselling, couples counselling or couples therapy.

Our intimate relationships can be one of the greatest sources of joy and fulfilment in life.

When conflict or tension arises in our relationships, and there doesn’t seem to be a way to make things better, unsettling, unhealthy symptoms can develop, such as anxiety, loneliness, feeling isolated and depressed and hopeless.

Couples and individuals I work with often talk about feeling 'stuck' in patterns of relating which are painful and deeply unsatisfying. When you are stuck in these patterns it can be hard to see a way out and a sense of despair can set in.

Couple counselling can help you begin to see the patterns that are not meeting your needs and find new ways of relating that can help you grow individually and as a couple.

What Issues Can Relationship Counselling Help With?

Every couple experiences unique challenges in their relationship. Here are 15 common relationship issues I encounter in my work with couples and individuals seeking to improve their love lives:

  • Partners have grown apart

  • Someone has been unfaithful

  • A lot of hurtful, unproductive arguments

  • Clashes over money

  • Difficulty communicating and feeling their partner doesn't really hear what they are saying

  • Feeling unable to ask for what they want and need from their relationship

  • One partner is always wanting connection and time together and the other always seems to be distancing

  • Jealousy and trust issues

  • Different parenting styles, leading to constant arguing over the kids

  • No sex or different levels of sexual drive

  • The impact of addictions on the relationship

  • Not feeling appreciated

  • Stuck in a repetitive, boring routine

  • More time spent on tech devices then with each other

  • All work and no play

Relationship Counselling Is A Good Idea

It may feel like a big step in making the decision to talk about your relationship, especially the sensitive issues. It's hard enough sometimes talking with your partner about problems, let alone a complete stranger.

I encourage you to push past your fear or hesitation and give it a try. There is an ever growing body of evidence showing that relationship/couples counselling can help couples and individuals find solutions to a wide range of relational problems that can lead to a deeper connection, and happiness with the people you love.

What Happens During Relationship Counselling?

All sessions have unique characteristics but in general, here's what you can expect in the first session.

I begin by asking questions to help me get to know you as individuals and as a couple. Some of the things we will explore initially are:

  • What are the key issues that are not satisfying for you individually and as a couple?
  • What are some of the solutions you have tried to get your needs met?
  • What do your conflicts look like, for example, how do you argue? What solutions have worked to improve things? What has gotten better?
  • If relationship counselling is working for you, what kind of changes would you hope to see and feel?

 In the first session very often couples begin to feel a shift or change.  Feeling supported and having the chance to get important thoughts and feelings out in a constructive and well structured environment can bring about positive change very quickly.

Communication is the Foundation

Better Communication is Essential To Relationship Happiness

A key part of the work together is looking at the way you communicate as a couple and identify patterns that keep you stuck in arguments,unable to find solutions to problems and leave you feeling deeply unsatisfied. Together we look at what you can do differently to communicate better, express your needs in a more productive manner, be heard and bring about the changes that can lead to the kind of intimacy you desire.

A Safe Environment to Explore Your Relationship

In my work with couples I create a safe environment that is conducive to:

  • Discovery

    You begin to explore and discover the issues that really matter the most to you

  • Communication

    You learn communication skills that help you communicate what matters to you and helps your partner really hear you, perhaps for the first time

  • Gaining Perspective

    You begin to see the bigger picture of what is going on in your relationship

  • Understanding

    You begin to understand the differences between you in a new and potentially very positive way

  • Connection

    You begin to understand how working with your differences in a new way can very quickly bring back intimacy and a feeling of being connected with each other on a deeper level

  • Self Awareness

    You learn how to manage the powerful emotions that your relationship stirs up in you

Why work with me?

Over many years, I’ve worked with hundreds of couples in my private practice in Ealing, West London and in Central London at my Liverpool St Office. Since 2018 I have supported and provided guidance to couples and individuals around the world via online relationship therapy and counselling.

I’ve provided relationship counselling and marriage and family therapy as a part of a team of NHS professionals, supporting families in crisis and individuals and couples seeking support to build happier relationships.

In short, I have a lot of experience and specialised training with a focus on relationship issues.

Very Importantly, I’ve been on the other side of the relationship counselling / couple’s therapy process, as a client. I know what it’s like to struggle to communicate well and build consistently strong connections with people I love.

Perhaps most importantly of all, I bring a genuine commitment to helping people have happier, more nurturing relationships. To be honest, it’s my passion. I love the work I do, sharing my expertise and supporting others, to enrich their relationships, enriches my life and gives it greater meaning.

Find out more about my approach to relationship counselling and couples therapy and my specialist training and experience:

  • "Gary draws on many years of diverse experiences and provides an insightful perspective. He is very good at getting to the root of complicated situations and offers creative suggestions to promote healthy change. Most importantly, I always felt I heard and accepted for who I am in our sessions. I would recommend Gary to any friend or family member seeking dividual, couples or family therapy”

    – LP, London (Individual Relationship Counselling)

  • “My experience working with Gary has been nothing short of life changing. His expertise, empathy, and unwavering support have empowered me to become the best version of myself in every aspect of my life. I'm immensely grateful for his guidance and highly recommend his services to anyone seeking personal growth and transformation”

    – JM, Wales (Online Relationship Counselling)

  • “Gary is a keen listener, and in his sessions offers really creative suggestions to break out of negative communication patterns, see each other's perspective and begin to embrace our differences. He helped us to see our differences, not as obstacles to loving connection but as bridges, ways to meet each other in a more open hearted and emotionally generous manner. Gary’s concept of “respectful curiosity” helped turn our relationship around and set it back on course to a happier future together.”

    – F&P, Paris, France (Online Marriage Counselling)

  • “I contacted Gary when my marriage was in crisis. Within hours Gary made himself available for a session, which was tremendously helpful. After our session I felt like some weight had been lifted, and I could envision a path forward instead of feeling lost in the dark.”

    – LP, Barcelona, Spain (Online Relationship Counselling)

Frequently Asked Questions

About Relationship Counselling

  • There is an ever growing body of research that suggests relationship counselling, couples counselling and marriage therapy have many benefits. Following relationship counselling, couples relate improved feelings of security in their relationship, enhanced positive feelings toward each other which leads to greater cooperation in life together,alongside decreased stress and increased confidence in meeting future relationship challenges. Relationship counselling provides individuals and couples with communication skills and tools which help increase mutual understanding and empathy. This leads to less conflict and greater mutual cooperation.

  • Sessions are a full 60 minutes and the fee is 90 pounds.

  • Each individual or couple has a unique set of needs. We can discuss your needs in the free 20-minute chat or during an initial first full session.

  • I do not require a predetermined number of sessions or frequency for your sessions. I believe you know best how often you need to attend sessions. I’m certain you know best what you can afford to commit financially to counselling.

    I work on a session by session basis. In other words,after each session, if you feel the time has been productive, we can schedule a followup session.

  • I am currently accepting new clients. I schedule sessions all week long, including weekends between the hours of 2pm-9pm UK time.

    If you have questions you want to ask me before deciding if relationship counselling is right for you, I offer a free 20-minute counselling intro chat all week, including weekends between the hours of 2pm-9pm UK time.

  • I do work with individuals in a relationship where the partner is not wanting to participate. Individual sessions focus on what is important to you in making your relationship a nurturing and happy environment. We focus on what you have control over, and what change you want to see in your relationship? During the first session we spend time discussing how relationship counselling can help you get what you desire from your intimate relationships.

  • I believe you will know if relationship counselling is working for you early on in the process. You might begin to feel a shift, in your perspective or your partner’s perspective that will feel like an opening, perhaps some clarity, a new perspective on a way forward.

How Does Relationship Therapy Work?

Three simple steps to setting up your couples counselling session:

  • 1

    Fill out the short form on the contact page with a brief description of the help you need.

  • 2

    I respond within 24 hours of receiving your message. I offer you options to meet. Short notice consultations are available.

  • 3

    We confirm the session and I email you a Zoom link for the meeting.

Relationship Counselling Sounds Right for Me!

Let’s schedule a session. Send a booking enquiry to arrange your first session, or arrange a free 20-minute chat to go through any questions you may have before booking.